Do you have a hard time trusting someone who has behaved in a shady manner towards another person? They haven’t done anything shady to you…so you think…but the way you’ve seen (or heard about) them cross boundaries and lose the trust of others may cause you to scratch your head and think “Hmmm, I’d be super naïve to believe they wouldn’t do the same thing to me.”
I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt but often I become preoccupied with thinking that I may be the next sucker! I believe in second chances. I believe that people can see the error in their ways, make behavioral changes and do better. I also believe that it’s not good to be so judgmental. After all no one enjoys having others constantly bring up their past and point out their faults.
On the flip side, no one wants to be played for a fool. And reality is that this all becomes much trickier when it becomes so very personal. Do you let the family member who has a past (forgery) criminal record crash in your guest room for a few weeks? Do you start a romantic relationship with the guy who cheated on his ex-girlfriend to date you? Do you remain friends with the person who constantly shares slanderous gossip with you about others in your friendship circle?
What does one do to gain your trust? What does one do to lose your trust? Can they regain your trust? If yes, how can he/she do so? What are your thoughts? Please share.
Peace and Love